is it weird that i don't want a wedding?

#1 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 12:03 AM

i love my boyfriend and we're getting married soon, but we haven't planned a wedding cuz i just don't want one. i want to be married, but a wedding to me isn't exciting. a lot of my family and friends live so far that i don't know how many would make it.
i am surprised to hear how many other woman feel the same way. many of you had some helpful ideas. the one about taking a trip to hawaii and getting married just the two of you sounds great and romantic. that is something i would like. thanks!

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#2 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 12:10 AM

I was like that too when I got married 3 years ago - I knew the importance of a wedding but in my mind, I just wasn't girly girl enough to want the whole Cinderella thing.

Do what makes you happy.

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#3 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 12:11 AM

There's nothing wrong with that, everyone has different tastes and personalities. Congrats on your upcoming marriage.

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#4 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 12:14 AM

Weddings are for people who want all kinds of attention. Personally, I didn't have one; we just had a great trip! Didn't miss it at all.

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#5 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 12:15 AM

I felt the same way on & off throughout the planning process. Sometimes it was fun & I was excited & other times I just wanted to get it over with. After all the planning stress & seeing how much money we were getting into, we canceled the whole thing & decided to go with what I originally wanted & we flew to Hawaii & got married on the beach by ourselves. It was awesome & I wouldn't change one thing about it. It was just me & him getting ready in our room together, they had a salon at our hotel for my hair, I did my own makeup, it was totally relaxing, and we still had a professional photographer that the hotel provided. You should look into that. My husband & I both absolutely loved it.

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#6 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 12:16 AM

There's this place in Vegas. They let you get married at a drive through window. Here's their website. http://www.lasvegasweddings.com/drivethru.html The prices range from $200 to $600. Sounds more your style.

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#7 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 12:21 AM

no because im engaged and I want to skip all that and my fiance and I are eloping and marrying intimately in a rainforest :) I dont think it is weird at all - i hate too much attention and my fiance doesnt speak to his parents so there other reasons why we dont want a wedding. we think it is about the 2 of us and thats how we want to spend it...

everyone is different - but at the end of the day a marriage is a marriage, regardless of how you choose to exchange vows.

good luck to you :)

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#8 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 12:23 AM

hey... i feel you 100% i understand because of a similar situation.

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#9 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 12:45 AM

I was married with just the Priest, two witnesses, my now husband and me. I never regretted it for a moment.

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