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Old 12-17-2008, 08:32 PM
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Default can my boyfriend wear a tux to a wedding if he is just a guest?

ok so my boyfriend bought a tux to wear to a new years eve wedding, but i think its too formal if he is just a guest -- what do you think?


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Old 12-17-2008, 08:37 PM
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Unless the invite specifically says black tie requested/required, then yes that is too formal for a guest.

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Old 12-17-2008, 08:39 PM
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How formal is the actual wedding? Some weddings are black tie affairs, and require a tux for all male guests, although this is probably a minority. I would suggest a nice suit instead just to be safe, but it would be completely fine if you (or your boyfriend) wanted to call the bride/groom/bride's parents and find out whether or not a tux would be too dressy. Have fun!

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Old 12-17-2008, 08:40 PM
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It depends on the formality of the wedding. If the wedding invitation indicates that it's Black Tie or Formal, then yes, a tuxedo would certainly be appropriate. And you should wear a long gown, or a very elegant cocktail dress, to complement him. Many New Year's weddings are formal events, so I don't think a tux would necessarily be out of place.

However, most weddings just call for a suit (and a nice dress for ladies) - black for evening affairs, tan/grey/charcoal for the morning and afternoon. The time of day can give you a clue as to how formal the event is ... anything from about 5 p.m. and later is usually more formal than a daytime or early afternoon event.

The location can also help you determine how formal the event is. A hotel ballroom will likely be a lot fancier than a VFW hall, for example.

If you're unsure, call the host (bride, groom, parents) and ask. I'm sure they'd much rather have you call and ask, than have you show up and feel over/underdressed. Always better to be safe than sorry.

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Old 12-17-2008, 08:43 PM
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Normally, it is poor manners to "overdress" for any event - especially a wedding. If the invitation didn't say "black tie" or "formal", then his tux would be out of order on any other night of the year. HOWEVER if the wedding is part of a New Years' Eve party, then anything goes as many people wear tuxedos and formal dresses/gowns on New Years' Eve. If he bought the tux, then you should dress formally as well. Doesn't have to be a floor-length dress, but should be very elegant. The couple actually may have selected New Year's Eve to be certain that all their guests would be elegantly attired!

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Old 12-17-2008, 09:02 PM
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Any time one goes to an evening party, it is perfectly correct form to wear proper evening dress. Evening dress for a gentleman is an evening cut-away tailcoat, or less formally a tail-less dinner jacket (sometimes called a "Tuxedo"), or less formally still a dark three-piece suit with a white shirt and conservative tie. Evening dress for a lady is a floor-length gown in luxurious fabric, with sparkling jewels and long gloves.

Evening dress is never correct before six o'clock in the evening (even for members of the wedding party). If the wedding is in the morning or afternoon of New Year's Eve, then it's proper to wear "morning dress" which has a different style of cutaway jacket and is worn with a four-in-hand or ascot tie -- or a plain suit. Morning dress for a lady is a shorter dress, worn with pearls or plain beads and short gloves.

In simpler words:
- If the wedding takes place after six o'clock, your boyfriend may wear his "tux".
- If the wedding takes place before six o'clock, no-one should wear "tuxes"

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Old 12-17-2008, 09:10 PM
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Unless the invitation says it is a black tie event, a tux is a little too formal for a guest to wear to the wedding. A nice suit would be more appropriate.

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Old 12-17-2008, 09:15 PM
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mmm maybe a little too formal, but if he was to take off the coat, and he would just wear the shirt with the tie, slacks, and shoes, it hink he would be ok.

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Old 12-17-2008, 09:31 PM
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he can wear whatever he wishes but unless the invitation states formal attire he may feel a bit out of place in a tux. of course if he just wants to be different and stand out - there is no classier way of doing it! a man in a tux is always attractive!

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Old 12-17-2008, 10:43 PM
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Unless it says black tie, he will look silly. That would be like you wearing a formal bridesmaid dress while others are in sundresses. Only if it is specificly black tie on the invite would you wear a tux or formal gown.

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