Wedding help, huge families 2 different countries?

So i've been blessed to be inlove with the most amazing man i have ever met. Anyways, he's an american [in USAF] and i'm a canadian [grade 12 student]. I'm moving to the states to be with him, because of the fact that he is in the military and will be stateside soon [currently, no in the us] so we're thinking of having our wedding in the states. its still not set in stone, nothing but our engagement is. no matter where we have the wedding, be that in Canada or America. we are going to have aot of people flying to the location, be that his family/friends or mine.

question #1
is there a way, to have a nice wedding but thats not crazily expensive?
question #2
when invited people who are not in area for the wedding, do we pay the airline tickets and the accomodations? [meaning me and my parents] or is that wrong?

thanks!
ella


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Traditionally the wedding is in the Brides hometown, if there is one or the other place where less family has to fly do it there.
You do not have to pay for any flights with destination weddings unless you readily have th funds and want too.

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Probabally best to do it in the states since you will be living there, CHURCHES are amazing way of saving money you can have your wedding and reception there and they are normally at half the cost of most places or someones back yard is normally free, Many people think buffets are cheap looking but they are a great choice they save the bride and groom money and they allow the guest to have what they want. an important tip is LOOK FOR INEXPENSIVE STUFF, read the reviews and check to make sure it is a good item but you don't have to buy expensive things to have not only a nice wedding but BEAUTIFUL

I am planning my wedding and we are following those rules and it is going to be about $3,000

Check out websites like: frugalbride.com for tips and other wedding sites

and to answer your second question invite out of town people months in advance so that they can make plans, It is not nessacary for you to pay for their flight and accomadations, if they need help then it would be good to assist them but it isn't required.

hope this helps

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There are plenty of ways to do weddings nicely but cheaply

Be prepared to do things on your own, wedding planners alone can be thousands of dollars.
Keep things minimal. See what your venue can give you (decoration wise) Stick with candles or something simple for centerpieces (flowers can be expensive)
Pick flowers that are in season. Have your girls only carry a couple of long stem flowers, elegant and cheaper then full bouquets.
Do a buffet instead of sit down.
Try to buy your dress sample instead of ordering, you can usually get a deal that way.
Have your girls buy their dresses from a department store if possible.
Craft stores have invites that are nice and you just do the printing on your computer...
There are million of other ways to do things cheaply.

And the brides family paying for the airline tickets and accommodations is a little outdated.

This is going to sound tacky....but when deciding where to have the wedding, take a couple things into consideration. Which family can afford the travel more? Is there family (sickly, etc) that you MUST have there, but wouldn't be able to make the trip? Are you or him closer with your families? I'm sure I'll get some thumbs down, but its true.

Good luck!

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If you can, it's always nice to pay for accomodations. You are only *supposed* to pay for accomodations for those in the wedding party the night of the wedding. You pay for additional nights, if they are required to be there early/late for additional events.
Weddings are expensive :) I didn't really add any frills to mine, and it was $20,000 for 100 people. If people are traveling, you should make it as nice as you can.
If you are on a tight budget, give yourself more time to plan so you can get really good deals. Maybe give yourself 12-18 months to plan.

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its all about budget if you know you cant afford it, the "alot of people" then don't do it, its your wedding it should be where you and your future husband should be at and if some members of family cant make it then thats there problem... i dont see the point in big weddings there sooo much of a headache i know because my fiance is also in the military and instead of throwing a 60,000 wedding (HUGE headache) were only inviting the immediate family, just do what you want!
Much Luck!!~

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First off, let me say CONGRATS..

Usually people pay for their own flights and accommodations but to better help them, plan the wedding as soon as possible so that they can go ahead and book their tickets and rooms so it will be cheaper on them.

So as soon as you know when and where, let the people who are traveling know. As for where to have it, why not have it where the place you are going to be living? that part is really up to you though. But i would go with the U.S. , since i live there. but if u do decide to havei t here there is a great source i use. www.theknot.com

i hope this has helped

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This is not as simple as marrying someone from the same country, and travel time is far from your most important consideration. You must make sure you cover all your legal bases because if you don't you could find yourself unable to enter the US.

If the two of you marry in Canada, you cannot both move to the US immediately. The US Immigration and Naturalization Service has strict rules about this. Your husband must first return to the US without you and apply for a Family Class visa on your behalf. You cannot enter the US until that visa is processed; current processing times are running at 12 to 18 months.

If you wish to marry in the US, your spouse must return to the US without you before the wedding and apply for a K-1 fiance visa. This takes from nine to thirteen months and, again, you cannot enter the US (even for the wedding) until the visa is processed.

Some Canadians simply choose to travel to the US to visit their fiances, then get married while they're there and file for the family class visa after the wedding. Couples who do this have to pretend to the INS that the wedding was a spur-of-the-moment decision. If there's any evidence that you knew you were going there to get married (say, if you brought all your possessions with you) INS can expel you for fraud and refuse to let you back in. What's more, if you do this you cannot leave the US until the visa is processed (not even for a family funeral), and you will not be allowed to work.

Your husband may also have to file documents with the Air Force because he's marrying a non-citizen. Another consideration is that the Air Force, and especially the officer class, has a very strong morals clause; if you started dating him before your 18th birthday he could get in serious trouble and even lose his commission.

All the mess this is may explain why so many American-Canadian couples choose instead to live in Canada, where the laws are far more relaxed with respect to Americans. You don't really have that choice given your husband's career, though.

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Now that I've given you that blurb, I have some advice about your questions!

A nice wedding does not have to be expensive. A morning church wedding followed by a cake-and-punch reception can be lovely and in excellent taste despite the fact that you can do it for less than $1,000.

You do not pay for your family's accommodations or travel, but you should take them into consideration. You also have to take into consideration the fact that your family may have to order passports to attend an American wedding, and the passport office is backlogged.


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You write: is there a way, to have a nice wedding but thats not crazily expensive?

How about this?
You two wed quietly at the courthouse or your regular place of worship. (If hubby is in the military, the base chapel is always an option.) Wear a pretty dress and carry a small bouquet. Your groom can wear his uniform. Have a photographer take some photos.

In the US, your expenses with this wedding would be:
1. marriage license
2. rings
3. something for bride to wear
4. a small bouquet for bride (remember, groom does NOT wear a bout if wearing his uniform).
5. Photography.
6. Maybe a gratuity for your officiant, depending upon the officiant selected (I understand that some judges cannot accept tips).

Then . . .
Visit each family. Ask each family to host a party or reception in their own area. You end up with two parties but not a lot of expense . . . other than travel for two.

The parties can be as formal or informal as each family wishes. His family may wish to host an informal barbecue. You family may want to host a more formal reception. They could even do a small dinner for the immediate family at a favorite restaurant. They could do cake and punch (or cake and champagne) at home for a larger group of family and friends. Leave it up to each family.

There . . . you are married . . . but without huge expenses, and without everyone having to travel.

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Traditionally the wedding is in the Brides hometown, if there is one or the other place where less family has to fly do it there.













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